Her boyfriend is gay…she has a vision saying that she should help him…
6 mins 8
She starts to thinking of ways to get him interested in her, sexually. They
end up having sex.
9 mins 10
They go to school
16 min 0
Skip to 22 min 36 sec (near the end of scene 6)
16 mins 2
Assembly / worship time
21 mins 8
22 min 36
Patrick gets up off the group (he fell off his skate board)
24 mins 50
She’s throwing up.
24 mins 58
You catch the end of her throwing up, it then cuts to their sex-ed class
She does a pregnancy test
28 mins 45
"the test mentioned something about a possible false positive...no, no, I
can make that"
29 mins 15
She does to the clinic
33 min 10
She has a short swearing fit….in a what am I going to do now, kind of way
33 min 40
34 mins 55
Ideally, play from 1 min 30 sec - 16 mins 0 sec, then skip ahead to 22
mins 36 sec and play to 33 mins 40 sec. While this is quite a long clip at 25
mins, it highlights a lot of issues and even gives an idea of what the Bible
says about this.
If you you don't have the ability to video edit, then just play from scene
1 from 1 min 30 sec and when you get to 16 mins skip to chapter 7. You
could stop at 28 mins 45 if you want a shorter clip, or just continue to 33
If you discovered you were pregnant, what would you do?
Who would you tell? Friends? Parents? Nobody?
How would your parents / friends react?
What do you think your options would be?
Keep it / Abortion / Adoption
Do you think people your age make good mothers / fathers?
How do you think having a child would effect your day to day life?
Friendships / Carrier / school / family / job
We have talked about this one before...but what are your views on
Could you do that?
What do you think about adoption?
According to government studies, "Scarborough has the highest rate of
teenage pregnancy in North Yorkshire"
There were 4,434 conceptions under the age of 18 years in the Yorkshire
& Humber Region in 2001
There were 1,632 live births to women aged under 18 years in 2002
Why do you think so many teenagers your age end up pregnant?
Is it deliberate? Ignorance? Want to get a home etc? Their parents did
it? Could not get contraception? Didn't realise the consequences...
What do you know about contraception?
Where would you go to find out?
There are many forms of contraception...
If you want detailed advice, go see your doctor, or family planning
The most 'common' include:
Condoms (male and female)
The pill (2 types)
Diaphragms / caps (things that they put inside you)
IUD / IUS (things that they put inside you)
Natural family planning
Contraception injections / implants
Give a brief summary of each one...but stress need to see a Doctor etc.
If you got to a point where you need advice about this but you feel you
can't go to the doctor or whatever
We'd rather you talked to us about it than run the risk of getting
What ever method is used, they can fail...
The best way to avoid getting pregnant is not to have sex / avoid touching
intimate areas (you can get pregnant without having sex)
Pastor Skip said that "...good Christian's don't get jiggy with it
until they are married"
This is an option that seems to get ignored by many people...why?
did any of you see no sex please, we're teenagers...
Why does God want us to wait until we are married?
What do you think the Bible actually says about this stuff?
1 Corinthians 7:1-3 and v 7-9 (The Message) "Now, getting down to the questions you asked in your letter to me. First,
Is it a good thing to have sexual relations? Certainly--but only within a
certain context. It's good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a
husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain
them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of
sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality--the husband
seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her
husband........Sometimes I wish everyone were single like me--a simpler life
in many ways! But celibacy is not for everyone any more than marriage is. God
gives the gift of the single life to some, the gift of the married life to
others. I do, though, tell the unmarried and widows that singleness might well
be the best thing for them, as it has been for me. But if they can't manage
their desires and emotions, they should by all means go ahead and get married.
The difficulties of marriage are preferable by far to a sexually tortured life
as a single"
The Bible says that sexual things should only take place within a marriage
But if we're honest, it's difficult to think
straight when the heat is on...you can end up going further than you wanted to
You need to think about this before "stuff happens"
Do you draw the line at holding hands, sex, or somewhere in between?
[Write sex on one piece of paper and holding hands on anther]
So if sex if at one end of the spectrum and holding hands is at the
other, what kind of things come in between?
Kissing, touching above clothes, touching bellow clothes, oral sex
[Write down their suggestions / get them to do it]
Discus the 'options' asking:
What are the physical / emotional consequences of this?
What are the risks?
[Hand out pens / sheet that says "dating...engagement, marriage...?]
So to finish I'd like you to think about where you draw the line...
Copy out the words, but place them where they feel they should
What ever situation you find yourself in we want you to feel that you are always welcome here...