Talk (Teenage Pregnancy / Saved!)

Stuff needed

Saved! DVD
Blank white paper / marker pen
Sheets with "dating", "engaged", "married" on
Leaflets from FPA etc.

Talk Introduction

Our topic tonight is teenage pregnancy...
To introduce the topic, we're going to watch a clip from Saved!

[Saved!]

Here are the timings from the DVD:

Scene	Start time	Description
1	1 min 30	Start of the film
2	3 min 30	Her boyfriend is gay…she has a vision saying that she should help him…
3	6 mins 8	She starts to thinking of ways to get him interested in her, sexually. They end up having sex.
4	9 mins 10	They go to school
	16 min 0	Skip to 22 min 36 sec (near the end of scene 6)
5	16 mins 2	Assembly / worship time
6	21 mins 8	“Alter call”
	22 min 36	Patrick gets up off the group (he fell off his skate board)
	24 mins 50	She’s throwing up.
7	24 mins 58	You catch the end of her throwing up, it then cuts to their sex-ed class
	27 min	She does a pregnancy test
	28 mins 45	"the test mentioned something about a possible false positive...no, no, I can make that"
8	29 mins 15	She does to the clinic
	33 min 10	She has a short swearing fit….in a what am I going to do now, kind of way
	33 min 40	Stop
9	34 mins 55

Ideally, play from 1 min 30 sec - 16 mins 0 sec, then skip ahead to 22 mins 36 sec and play to 33 mins 40 sec. While this is quite a long clip at 25 mins, it highlights a lot of issues and even gives an idea of what the Bible says about this.
If you you don't have the ability to video edit, then just play from scene 1 from 1 min 30 sec and when you get to 16 mins skip to chapter 7. You could stop at 28 mins 45 if you want a shorter clip, or just continue to 33 mins 10.

Middle bit

If you discovered you were pregnant, what would you do?
- Who would you tell? Friends? Parents? Nobody?
- How would your parents / friends react?
What do you think your options would be?
- Keep it / Abortion / Adoption
Keep it...
Do you think people your age make good mothers / fathers?
How do you think having a child would effect your day to day life?
- Friendships / Carrier / school / family / job
Abortion...
We have talked about this one before...but what are your views on abortion?
- Could you do that?
Adoption...
What do you think about adoption?
According to government studies, "Scarborough has the highest rate of teenage pregnancy in North Yorkshire"
- There were 4,434 conceptions under the age of 18 years in the Yorkshire & Humber Region in 2001
- There were 1,632 live births to women aged under 18 years in 2002
Why do you think so many teenagers your age end up pregnant?
- Is it deliberate? Ignorance? Want to get a home etc? Their parents did it? Could not get contraception? Didn't realise the consequences...
What do you know about contraception?
- Where would you go to find out?
There are many forms of contraception...
If you want detailed advice, go see your doctor, or family planning association
The most 'common' include:
- Condoms (male and female)
- The pill (2 types)
- Diaphragms / caps (things that they put inside you)
- IUD / IUS (things that they put inside you)
- Natural family planning
- Contraception injections / implants
Give a brief summary of each one...but stress need to see a Doctor etc.
If you got to a point where you need advice about this but you feel you can't go to the doctor or whatever
We'd rather you talked to us about it than run the risk of getting pregnant
What ever method is used, they can fail...
The best way to avoid getting pregnant is not to have sex / avoid touching intimate areas (you can get pregnant without having sex)
Pastor Skip said that "...good Christian's don't get jiggy with it until they are married"
This is an option that seems to get ignored by many people...why?
- did any of you see no sex please, we're teenagers...
Why does God want us to wait until we are married?
What do you think the Bible actually says about this stuff?
1 Corinthians 7:1-3 and v 7-9 (The Message)
"Now, getting down to the questions you asked in your letter to me. First, Is it a good thing to have sexual relations? Certainly--but only within a certain context. It's good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality--the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband........Sometimes I wish everyone were single like me--a simpler life in many ways! But celibacy is not for everyone any more than marriage is. God gives the gift of the single life to some, the gift of the married life to others. I do, though, tell the unmarried and widows that singleness might well be the best thing for them, as it has been for me. But if they can't manage their desires and emotions, they should by all means go ahead and get married. The difficulties of marriage are preferable by far to a sexually tortured life as a single"

End bit

The Bible says that sexual things should only take place within a marriage
But if we're honest, it's difficult to think straight when the heat is on...you can end up going further than you wanted to
You need to think about this before "stuff happens"
Do you draw the line at holding hands, sex, or somewhere in between?
[Write sex on one piece of paper and holding hands on anther]
So if sex if at one end of the spectrum and holding hands is at the other, what kind of things come in between?
- Kissing, touching above clothes, touching bellow clothes, oral sex
[Write down their suggestions / get them to do it]
Discus the 'options' asking:
What are the physical / emotional consequences of this?
What are the risks?
[Hand out pens / sheet that says "dating...engagement, marriage...?]
So to finish I'd like you to think about where you draw the line...
Copy out the words, but place them where they feel they should be...
What ever situation you find yourself in we want you to feel that you are always welcome here...
If you need advice...
[Pray]

References / research

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